3. EXERCISE together. Be good examples for one another and encourage each
other to get and stay in shape. Take walks and go on hikes or a bike ride;
try a yoga class together. Stretch out your body and stay flexible and
youthful. Go to the gym together and push around those weights, and do some
aerobic activity for heart strength and for building your endurance. Open
those hips and strengthen those lips, or is it open those lips and
strengthen those hips? Go dancing moon or shine. This healing program is
relaxing and revitalizing, as well as providing a rush of those feel good
brain endorphins. And then go back home and make a nice meal, or have a
picnic outdoors or at home. It really helps when both partners in a
relationship know how to prepare food, shop, and nourish one another. (Doing
the kitchen and cooking thing by oneself is often a challenge.) Also,
gardening and creating your food can be a shared experience. In other words,
be active and play together, two hearts beating as one.
4. Enjoy Beautiful Foods together—fresh seasonal fruits and vegetables at
their organic best. Spring greens are also wonderful; put some of these in
your mixed lettuce salad. Also, try some sensual foods and eating
experiences, such as an artichoke with a dip of olive oil, lemon, and
crushed garlic. Other spring veggies are leafy greens, like chard or kale,
so healthy for us, as well as green peas, radishes, and celery. Fresh salads
are tasty and very nourishing. Spring fruits include oranges and lemons,
strawberries (organic please), and dates, plus avocado. Make an energizing
smoothie. Look through healthy cookbooks to get ideas for new meals that you
can create together, such as in my book, A Cookbook for All Seasons. The
process of preparing food is sacred and vital to our health and life.
Transform it from a chore to a precious event.
5. Relationships, the people you choose to be close with, reflect your inner
self, your deeper psyche. Ultimately, we need energy (and blood, of course)
to flow from our heart. However, sometimes this energy is blocked, both by
our thoughts and fears and by influences of the world around us. Keeping the
heart energy open and flowing takes a constant embracing of who we are and
meeting our challenges. Destiny may also play a dominant role in love and
taps our heart to open and embrace a certain someone even though that
relationship may be difficult. All of us have an opportunity to learn, or
re-learn, to listen and nurture, particularly those us caught up in patterns
of denial. I say to men in particular, listen to, and open and embrace the
messages of your partner. Their advice will often help you grow. It might
begin with learning to make good foods for you and others, watching less TV,
going outdoors, or exploring new friendships. It may involve gaining
knowledge about herbs and making healing teas for one another. Do a foot or
back rub and use some of the many special oil products available at your
local stores. Ultimately, these new experiences might mean a change in how
you view yourself and your place in this world, which will lead to a change
in how you view others. This can then transform your experience of life.
6. Learn from your mistakes. That’s why growth and experience is so helpful,
as is breaking through individual boundaries. We can learn from other’s
mistakes. Otherwise, if we stop or run away too early, we may continue with
the same patterns, reach the same block with a new person, and have another
opportunity to learn how and why we got there. That’s why I tell people when
they end a relationship, "it’s a valuable time to work on yourself. If you
evolve and learn what failed, you have the new potential to attract someone
with whom you can go to the next level toward enlightened love and
relationship."